So I got sent to the dean today for wearing this top. My study tech teacher said that I was “exploiting” myself and that it could be a distraction to the other students. I got up out of my seat and told her that I wasn’t going to listen to her dress codes. In a way, she was being misogynist and slut shaming and I think that’s wrong. I will continue to wear what I want and nobody can tell me not to. The fact that womens bodies are sexualized and objectified so much angers me and that’s the reason why this happened. I’m going to wear what I want, how I want, when I want and that’s it.
I was there, reblog the shit out of this guys
I’m a guy. I can’t wear a shirt like this either, even though I’m not going to be wearing a bra. it’s dress code. It’s not slut shaming. You can’t show your bra like that at most jobs. why should you at school? Yes sexism is wrong and all that, but you can’t get ‘angry at the patriarchy” because you can’t show your undergarments in public. I’m not going to wear jeans with a rip in the side or the front that show off my flowery boxers, because that’s just not appropriate for school. Have some professionalism. You can wear whatever you like at home or with your friends or whatever, yes, but school prepares you for real life.
At work you can’t have this attitude of “I wear the fuck ever I want.” and expect to keep your job. School is the same way because it’s trying to teach you that lesson. That’s unrealistic; almost any job you get is going to have someone tell you what to wear or what to do because you work for them and you represent their company. If you don’t look the way they need you to look, that makes them look bad. A tattoo parlor probably isn’t going to hire someone who dresses like a nun and a top company isn’t going to hire someone who comes to work in a tank top that shows off her bra or a guy that shows off his ballsack.
You can’t blame patriarchy for this, I’m sorry. You can’t blame sexism for this. If I wore booty shorts and you could almost see my balls through my semi transparent flowery goddamn boxers, I would get in the same amount of trouble as you, and it’s within good reason.
First off: Really? Because I see guys wearing this kind of shirt at my school every fucking day. Also, I think you missed the point of the post. Yes, school dress codes DO perpetuate slut shaming. Bras are not inherently sexual objects, yet they have been sexualized by our society so much that we can’t even show the straps or the sides without it being construed as “exploiting” ourselves (Oh, and about that: it’s fucking ridiculous that that teacher made that comment. A girl’s manner of dress does not necessarily correlate to their level of “self-exploitation;” it’s just another ill effect of the patriarchy that men think that the way women dress is solely for their benefit or due to their influence.)
School isn’t work. School isn’t a job. People in school aren’t adults, they’re kids who are experimenting in self-expression and finding their identity. They shouldn’t be held to the same standards as office jobs, especially since school is a place they are forced to be. School can educate students about appropriate clothing choices for the future without enforcing stringent rules and shaming them in the process.
But back to the slut-shaming nature of dress-codes, and their entrenchment in the patriarchy. One of the main points of dress codes, as explicitly stated school rules & regulations, is to make sure that students aren’t “distracted” by other students attire. They are telling a girl whose bra is showing that it’s her responsibility to make sure that males aren’t distracted by her body. That’s demonstrative of both the over-sexualization of women’s bodies and of dress codes’ part in rape culture; it is placing the responsibility of not being sexualized on the woman, saying that if she IS sexualized and ogled and distracts other students, it’s her fault, instead of telling the students that maybe they should pay attention to the blackboard and not some woman’s brastrap.
Maybe guys should just learn to keep it in their pants, and accept that my decision to wear a tank top or short shorts has more to do with the weather or my own personal sense of style than it does with pleasing them and becoming a sexual object.